Being invited to a Bris ceremony is a special honor, allowing you to partake in the celebration of a sacred tradition of the baby entering the Covenant of Abraham.
As guests, it’s essential to embrace the warmth and reverence of this special occasion. Understanding the etiquette helps everyone feel comfortable and respected, creating an atmosphere of love and support.
Whether it’s your first time attending or you’re familiar with the ritual circumcision customs, discover thoughtful insights into the Bris Milah dos and don’ts, ensuring it’s a meaningful experience for all!
How Should I Dress for a Bris Ceremony?
Many will want to dress modestly and respectfully, similar to what you would wear to a religious service. The specific clothing may vary depending on the location and the customs of the family hosting the event.
For example, the dress code is more casual if it’s in a home instead of a synagogue.
If it’s in a synagogue or a fancier venue, most attendees will “dress up” a bit or more formally.
If it’s outdoors and hot, naturally, most people will not be wearing suits and ties.
It also depends on each family and their preference. To Rabbi Rappaport, the most important thing is for the baby to have a perfect experience and for all to feel included and happy.
It is customary for the men to wear a kippah (yarmulke) as a sign of respect, especially those involved in the actual ceremony.
When Should I Arrive at the Ceremony?
It’s common for guests to spend 20-30 minutes mingling and catching up before the ceremony starts. This is a great time to chat with friends and family, enjoy the excitement, and settle in.
Of course, there are certain cultures, such as Israelis and South Americans, where the start time is only a suggestion. Rabbi Rappaport always jokingly tells these parents to invite everyone at 9:30 am if they plan to start the ceremony at 10:00 am, and then hopefully, it can begin “on time.”
The new baby and parents may not be present right away, so take this opportunity to relax and get into the celebratory spirit.
What Should I Do if I Arrive Late?
Life happens, and sometimes, being on time just isn’t possible.
If you arrive late to a Bris ceremony, don’t worry. These events are generally laid-back and understanding of guests’ busy schedules.
Quietly find a seat and join the celebration, or stand in the back.
It’s perfectly okay to slip in without making a fuss, as the ceremony is typically brief. And, of course, don’t miss out on the delicious food and festivities—it’s worth arriving on time if you can! Many arrive fashionably late and just in time for the main part of the ceremony—the food!
Can I Bring My Children to the Ceremony?
Absolutely!
A Bris Milah is a joyous, family-friendly event. It’s not unusual to see little ones at these gatherings, sharing in the joy of welcoming a new member to the community.
If you’re unsure, it’s perfectly fine to check with a family member or friend who is helping to organize the event.
It’s a good idea to explain to your kids beforehand what the ceremony is about, as they might have lots of questions. This way, they can be prepared and comfortable throughout the Bris Milah.
Where Should I Sit during the Ceremony?
Seating at a Bris Milah is typically informal and relaxed. At many venues, there are some seats for those needing them while the others gather and stand around.
You can sit wherever you feel comfortable, usually in a designated area for guests. There’s no strict seating arrangement, so feel free to choose a spot where you can see and hear the ceremony. Rabbi Rappaport always tells the crowd to come as close as they want or stay as far as they want!
If you have young children with you, it might be best to sit near the back or at the edge of the seating area, just in case you need to step out for a moment.
Is It Appropriate to Take Photos or Videos?
It’s important to respect the family’s wishes and the sacredness of the ceremony.
Parents will typically let you know if taking photos or videos is acceptable. If they do allow it, make sure to do so discreetly and without disturbing the ceremony.
Remember to silence your cell phone to avoid any interruptions during this meaningful occasion. Rabbi Rappaport is fine with pictures and videos but always says the baby requests no pictures of him while his diaper is open.
What Do I Wish the Parents and Family?
The traditional Bris greeting is “Mazel tov!” which means “congratulations” or “good luck.” This expression of happiness is customary not just for the parents but also for the extended family.
Are Gifts Appropriate for a Bris Milah?
Bringing a gift to a Bris is a thoughtful gesture, though it’s not a requirement. After all, it is a party for his BIRTH day!
If you’d like to offer a present, bring something special for the baby, like a cute outfit, a toy, or a book. If there are older siblings, a small gift for them can also be a sweet touch.
Another wonderful idea is to offer a meal for the parents in the coming weeks. With a newborn in the house, a home-cooked meal can be a huge help and a much-appreciated act of kindness.
Are There Specific Prayers or Blessings I Should Know?
Just before the circumcision, the Mohel offers a blessing, followed by blessings recited by the parents.
As the ceremony progresses, the community responds with a beautiful blessing: “Just as this child has entered into the covenant, so may he enter into a life of Torah, a happy and loving marriage, and into a life of good deeds.” This blessing, often recited in Hebrew, is a heartfelt wish for the child’s future.
If you’re unfamiliar with the Hebrew words, don’t worry—Rabbi Rappaport typically translates everything so everyone can fully understand, appreciate, and participate!
In more traditional settings, some attendees may recite the Birkas Hamazon, a prayer of gratitude for the food after the meal.
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